Tonight will be a rare treat in my world–an evening out with my husband while someone else watches the hoarde. We are so caught up in the day to day details of kids, housework, bills, job, school, life that we don’t often take the time to reconnect. Even when we do have a minute, we may not put any effort into spending time together. As I grow, I’m realizing that we get out of life what we put into it. If I’m only willing to give 30 seconds to my partner every once in a while, I can’t expect to get more from him.

When you think about having a “date” or “night on the town”, what are your thoughts? Are you someone who gets all dressed up even if you’re sitting in the living room or do you prefer a more casual approach? There’s no right or wrong way to go about it. The point is to make the effort to connect with someone else.

For tonight’s date, my husband helped me pick out an outfit that I feel attractive in and that he likes to see me in. Because this isn’t just about me, I wanted to ask his opinion. Again, that helps us reconnect. I’ll take the time to pamper myself while getting ready because it’s so much easier for me to connect to someone else when I feel good about myself.

I will be the first to admit that tonight’s event is very rare–we have to find ways to reconnect when we don’t have the ability to go out for the night. There are so many different ways to reconnect with your loved ones.

Do something you enjoy together. We are fond of music and spend some evenings practicing the guitar together. We may not be very good yet but we have a good time.

Do something for your friend/partner/family member. Make a favorite treat or meal, give a massage, leave little cards or notes where they can be found, take over a chore for the day, pick flowers from the yard. The focus is not on what you do, just that you do something for someone else.

Spend some time just being. Life gets so hectic sometimes that we forget to stop and just be for a minute. Try to take the time to just sit together for a while.

No matter what you choose to do, focus on being in the moment with the ones you love. Allow yoursef to reconnect without expectations. A date can be anything you want it to be.